The Importance of Mentorship in Men’s Mental Health

The Importance of Mentorship in Men’s Mental Health

Mentorship can make all the difference.

In a world where men’s mental health is sometimes overlooked, it’s more important than ever to bring attention to the challenges many men face. While recent conversations about mental well-being have begun to chip away at the stigma, there’s still much progress to be made.

To better understand this important issue, we asked some of our male volunteers to open up about their personal experiences with mental health and the role mentorship has played in their lives. Their stories highlight not only the obstacles they’ve faced but also the powerful impact of having mentors who offer support, guidance, and a listening ear.

To guide our conversation, we asked our volunteers three key questions:

1. Can you share about your personal mental health journey and what it has looked like to seek help?

2. Tell us about a mentor or caring adult who showed up for you when you were a teen.

3. What is something you wish you could tell your teenage self?

Let’s take a closer look at these stories and how we can create a more supportive space where men feel encouraged to speak openly about their mental health.

Can you share about your personal mental health journey and what it has looked like to seek help?

Adam Herndon
Group Facilitator at Byron Nelson HS

I remember my dad informing me a long time ago about my grandmother being one of the first people to take anti-depressants in the 1950’s when they were invented. She struggled with depression and several family members have over the years. He wanted me to know it runs in our family and is always worth seeking help if I were to struggle. I’ve had short seasons (usually in the winter) of a couple of weeks to a month of seasonal depression.

It always helps to tell people I’m struggling in those moments even if I don’t need a high level of care. Just simple awareness and support from my friends and family is helpful.

Ty Carter
Group Facilitator at Rosemont Middle School

I was diagnosed with PTSD and depression and have been in therapy for just over a year. I should’ve done it sooner.

Chad Seagle
Group Facilitator at Denton Guyer HS

I sought therapy after a series of breakups that were long-term but weren’t good for me. After talking with someone, I was able to connect dots from my past, gain some tools, and gain confidence in myself that led to my next relationship being super healthy and ultimately us getting married. We’ve been together for 5 years now.

Tell us about a mentor or caring adult that showed up for you when you were a teen.

Adam Herndon
Group Facilitator at Byron Nelson HS

My teenage mentor, Jeff, is still my mentor to this day. The reason he continues to matter is that he has never tried to fix me but has always wanted me to know he was there. He listens well and encourages or reminds me of the more important truths about my identity to this day. I need that at 40 years old in the same way I did at 15 years old.

Ty Carter
Group Facilitator at Rosemont Middle School

My father is an important role model in my life. He’s the hardest working person I know. He taught me the value of earning instead of expecting things to be given to you.

Addison Weaver
Group Facilitator at Haltom HS

I would not be where I am today without strong male role models in my life who showed up and cared in my teen years. My 5th-grade teacher and my middle school history teacher made tremendous impacts in my life- teaching me compassion, hard work, and leadership. We remained in touch through the years, and he even came to my wedding years later!

Chad Seagle
Group Facilitator at Denton Guyer HS

I had a couple of youth pastors that were great listeners. I couldn’t tell you the wisdom they shared with me as I spilled my all-consuming drama, but their consistent presence was felt and I’m forever grateful.

What is something you wish you could tell your teenage self?

Adam Herndon
Group Facilitator at Byron Nelson HS

Your friend group will change MANY times as you go through so many places and seasons in life. Don’t worry so much about what everyone thinks of you, and don’t worry if some friends don’t work out now. You likely will not see them much if ever again.

Ty Carter
Group Facilitator at Rosemont Middle School

If I could give advice to my younger self, it would be- Don’t skip school. Be patient. Seek God.

Addison Weaver
Group Facilitator at Haltom HS

I would tell my teen self, ‘You are seen. You are known. And you are loved.’ I may not always remember the lessons taught, but I remember when adults who cared about me showed up

Chad Seagle
Group Facilitator at Denton Guyer HS

I would tell my teen self that it’s ok to have needs, too. And to set healthy boundaries with friends that are better “takers” than “givers.”

The impact of mentorship and open support for mental health is truly life-changing.

Each of these men shared their experiences with vulnerability, underscoring the importance of both seeking help and offering it to others. From the influence of caring mentors to the strength found in opening up about their mental health journeys, they remind us that no one should have to go through struggles alone.

By encouraging open conversations and providing supportive spaces, we can help more men feel comfortable reaching out. Together, we can foster a culture where mental health is prioritized, support is readily available, and no one feels isolated in their journey.

Because not only does no teen deserve to feel alone, but no adult does either.

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Lara Precure

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How can adults connect with teens during their senior year when everyone has senioritis?

Senioritis is widely regarded as a right of passage for teenagers.

It’s a time when they may push boundaries more, assert their independence, and navigate the delicate balance between adolescence and adulthood.

The potential to drive parents and caring adults crazy is off the charts.

But it’s also a unique opportunity to lean into that natural urge toward freedom and choose to prioritize connection.

So, how can parents and teachers connect with graduating seniors?

Testing Boundaries

During their senior year, teens may exhibit behaviors that seem out of character. They might push boundaries more, seeking to assert their independence before leaving home.

And let’s face it, the idea of moving on leaves most of us with senioritis.

Did you notice a change in your teen’s behavior during their senior year? (Do you remember your own?!)

These shifts are often a natural part of their development as they prepare to transition into adulthood. It’s not personal. It’s nature.

Ways to Connect with Graduating Seniors

Provide Independence

Graduating seniors crave autonomy and freedom. Give them a little more independence to make decisions and navigate their own path. Trusting them with responsibilities can help foster a sense of maturity and self-confidence.

Offer Grace

As seniors navigate the final stretch of their high school journey, it’s essential to offer them extra grace. Understand that they may be feeling overwhelmed or stressed about the future. Be patient and supportive as they navigate this transition period.

Adjust Expectations

Adjust your expectations during your teen’s senior year. Recognize that they may be balancing academic pressures, social obligations, and future plans. Be flexible and understanding, allowing them the space to explore and grow.

Talk About Something Else

While discussions about college or the future are important, get interested in other aspects of their life as well.

Show genuine interest in their hobbies, passions, and personal experiences. Engaging in meaningful conversations about something other than school can strengthen your connection with your graduating teen.

Leaning into the Coming Change

It’s hard for everyone to know that change is coming, but that you’re still in the waiting period.

Parents, however, can make good use of the time by allowing teens more freedom while they are still at home and have a safe place to fail and boundaries enough to keep them from going overboard.

It’s also good practice for parents to let go a little and see that their teen is capable and will be ok.

Cheat Sheet for Talking about Mental Health

Things to say if you are not “fine” and someone asks how you are:
  • I am actually going through some stuff right now
  • Not great, actually
  • It’s been a hard day (week/month/year)
  • I’d love to get your advice if you have some time to talk
  • Thanks for asking but I don’t feel like talking about it right now.

Things to ask if you are talking to a teen you don’t think is “fine”
  • Are you sure? I would love to grab lunch or a Sonic drink if you want to talk.
  • It seems like something is bothering you. Is there anything I can do to help?
  • I have noticed ___ change. What’s been going on?

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Chris has worked with teens from a variety of backgrounds for over a decade. He has a desire to help teenagers make good choices while also giving their families tools to communicate more effectively as choices are made.

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Director of Communications

Karlie was in one of Teen Life’s original support groups and has always had a heart for teenagers and the vulnerable life stage they are in. She has a wealth of experience to share from working with teens in ministry and leading support groups.

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