Palworld + Teen Dating Advice | Ep. 146

Palworld + Teen Dating Advice | Ep. 146

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Teen dating terms and tips every parent should know.

What advice would you give your teenage self about dating?

Despite vast changes in the romantic landscape, the emotional high of teen romance is universal. If anything, it’s amplified by being constantly connected, a heightened sense of vigilance, and a lack of commitment or trust. Teenagers are dealing with all the dangers and emotional disconnect of a techno world, adding to the emotional stress of being a teenager.

So what can parents and other caring adults do to help?

 

The number one desire of nearly every teenager is a caring adult who is willing to listen! Listening without judgment is the first step to helping teens navigate relationships in a healthy, constructive way.

That said, here’s our top advice for teens to stay healthy in dating relationships:

Dating should be a thrilling experience filled with laughter, butterflies, and meaningful connections. To help make the most of the dating journey, here are some essential tips to keep in mind.

Embrace the Fun

Dating should be a source of joy and excitement, not stress or pressure. Remember, it’s okay to feel nervous, but try to focus on the positive aspects of getting to know someone new. Keep things light-hearted, enjoy each other’s company, and don’t forget to laugh along the way. The goal is to create memorable experiences and forge connections that bring happiness into your life.

Maintain Your Independence

While it’s exciting to spend time with a romantic partner, it’s essential to retain your sense of independence and nurture your friendships. Don’t let your relationship consume all of your time and energy. Continue pursuing your interests, hanging out with friends, and prioritizing your own well-being. A healthy relationship should complement your life, not overshadow it.

Set Clear Boundaries

Establishing boundaries is crucial in any relationship, especially during the early stages of dating. Be upfront about your expectations and limits from the beginning. Boundaries aren’t just about physical intimacy; they also encompass emotional needs and personal space. For example, you might decide to take things slow, refrain from discussing long-term commitments like marriage, or set limits on the amount of time you spend together to ensure you maintain a healthy balance in your life.

Be mindful of each other’s feelings, thoughts, and personal space. Avoid pressuring your partner into sharing more than they’re comfortable with or making assumptions about their emotions. Healthy communication and empathy are key to navigating emotional boundaries and building trust in your relationship.

Prioritize Your Time

It’s essential to maintain a sense of balance in your life. Make sure to allocate time for your friends, family, hobbies, and responsibilities outside of your relationship. Setting aside designated time for these activities not only enriches your life but also prevents you from becoming overly dependent on your partner for fulfillment.

Listen to the full conversation on the podcast or you can read more tips in our blog post Teenage Romance: Tips for Teens and Parents!

Teen Terms Translated

Situationship: According to dictionary.com, “A situationship is often discussed as being similar to a friends-with-benefits relationship, which usually involves sexual activity without a commitment to be exclusive to each other. A situationship is often described as a relationship that is more than friendship but less than a committed relationship.”

Ick: The ick is a sudden feeling of disgust that seems to come out of nowhere. It can happen when a dating partner does or says something that makes them suddenly unattractive.

Red flag: Like it sounds, a red flag signals that something is not ok. It suggests that there is something unhealthy or even dangerous about a person or a relationship.

Green flag: A green flag is an enthusiastic endorsement of a person or relationship. It’s the idea that it might be true love.

Beige Flag: It’s not a red flag level concern, but a beige flag is something that just leaves you wondering why someone would post something. It can also be a beige flag for someone or something that is lacking in personality or is just “blah”.

Pink Flag: A pink flag is something that seems like a red flag at first, but after getting to know the person, there’s enough clarification to say that it’s really ok.

Also in this episode:

  • Palworld is the latest in popular online gaming for teens.
  • Taylor Swift is furious after a social media challenge led to explicit deepfakes of her circulating on Twitter.
  • Did you know? Apple recently updated everyone’s phone and installed the Journal app, which allows teens and adults to save photos and text behind a password, regardless of parental controls.
  • BeReal streaks– what are they and are they a good thing?

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126: Teen Support Groups & X App

126: Teen Support Groups & X App

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The Power of Support Groups: Why They Matter and How You Can Make a Difference

Support groups play a crucial role in our society, providing individuals with a safe space to connect, share, and heal. But it can be complicated for teens to find an appropriate group. Costs can be prohibitive, timing is hard with busy school schedules, and the stigma of anything mental health related can sometimes be an issue. Especially at such a sensitive time of life.

So let’s delve into why our Teen Support Groups are different from what you might think, why they are so effective, and how you can contribute to this vital cause.

But first, let’s understand the essence of Support Groups.

What are Support Groups?

Teen Life Support Groups offer teens a safe place to talk with peers about what is going on in their lives under the guidance of a trusted adult. Our facilitators are community volunteers who have been vetted and trained to be good listeners and guides.

Because Teen Life Support Groups focus on forward-reaching solutions and skills, they are not therapy and should not be considered as such. This actually makes them more accessible and less intimidating to most teens.

In these groups, students will learn life skills that will help them deal with stress, relationships, school, and more.

 

Our curriculum helps teens learn to manage stress and make decisions based on the future they want. So teenagers come away with stronger self-discipline and a better grasp on where they are and how they can improve- academically, socially, and within their family.

 

Whether there is a specific issue they are facing or they just need someone understanding to talk to, teens will leave with resources that will help them face life’s challenges.

Our groups also take place during the school day on school campuses. We have found that students are more invested and consistent when they don’t have to leave school to participate.

 

Why do Support Groups work?

  1. Connection to Peers
    One of the most significant advantages of support groups is the sense of belonging they provide. Participants often find comfort in knowing that they are not alone in their struggles. Connecting with peers who have faced similar challenges can reduce feelings of isolation and increase empathy.
  2. Connection to an Adult
    For young individuals, support groups can bridge the gap between their experiences and the guidance of an adult. They offer a unique opportunity for adolescents to connect with older individuals who have valuable life experience and can serve as mentors. One caring adult can change a teenagers life.
  3. An Easy Entry to Therapy or Counseling
    Support groups can act as a gateway to professional help. Many individuals are more willing to seek therapy or counseling after experiencing the benefits of sharing their feelings and challenges within a supportive group environment.
  4. Life Skills
    Support groups often provide practical guidance on coping mechanisms and life skills. Participants can learn effective strategies for dealing with their specific issues, empowering them to navigate life’s challenges more successfully.
  5. Hope
    Perhaps the most powerful aspect of support groups is the infusion of hope. When teens feel connected and know that they aren’t alone in their struggle, they are better able to see beyond it.

What can you do?

  • Donate
    Consider contributing to Teen Life. Your financial support gives the gift of hope to teens.
  • Volunteer
    Becoming facilitator is a meaningful way to get involved. Our schools Support Groups rely on dedicated volunteers to facilitate Groups. We hear over and over what a life-changing experience it is for the facilitator and the Group!
  • Advocate for Support Groups at Your School
    If you’re a student or a parent, advocate for the implementation of Support Groups within your school or educational institution. These groups can make a significant difference in the lives of young individuals at no cost to the school or the students.
Serving teenagers does not ever mean feeling like you have to relate to teenagers because that’s a moving target.
We encourage you not to feel like you have to relate but to be curious. Connect through curiosity!
Chris Robey

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Twitter becomes X

In July, Twitter underwent a significant transformation, rebranding itself as the “X App,” a move attributed to none other than Elon Musk. The platform introduced a new logo resembling a cracked screen with an X at its center.

Elon Musk explained this shift by stating, “The Twitter name made sense when it was just 140 character messages going back and forth – like birds tweeting – but now you can post almost anything, including several hours of video. In the months to come, we will add comprehensive communications and the ability to conduct your entire financial world.”

While these changes are still in their early stages, it’s possible that we may witness the emergence of shopping features and paid subscriptions on the X App in the future. Stay tuned for more updates!

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Ep. 44: Suggested Content & Winter Olympics Drama

Ep. 44: Suggested Content & Winter Olympics Drama

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Summary:
Have you noticed content in your social media feed that you didn’t sign up for? Chris and Karlie talk suggested content in episode 44- how it’s chosen for you and how to stop seeing content you didn’t choose to follow. Then, if you followed the winter olympics at all, you probably saw the drama on the ice. We’ll explore what happened and why it matters. Don’t miss this episode’s tip either! It’s sure to be fun for the whole family.

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Chris has worked with teens from a variety of backgrounds for over a decade. He has a desire to help teenagers make good choices while also giving their families tools to communicate more effectively as choices are made.

Karlie Duke

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Director of Communications

Karlie was in one of Teen Life’s original support groups and has always had a heart for teenagers and the vulnerable life stage they are in. She has a wealth of experience to share from working with teens in ministry and leading support groups.

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Hey Mom, Put Down Your Phone!

Hey Mom, Put Down Your Phone!

I had an interesting conversation in my group the other day. We got to talking about the students’ relationship with their parents, and it quickly turned into a discussion on family time and phone distractions. For probably the first time in one of my Support Groups, every single group member was on the same page! Here are some of the things I heard around the table that day:

  • My mom makes us have “family time” and watch a movie but stares at her phone the whole time.
  • My parents are constantly on Facebook or playing Candy Crush when we are together.
  • Why do they say I’m always on my phone when they are even worse than I am?
  • My dad always sends emails at the dinner table, but I get in trouble if I look at my phone.
  • I tell my parents “family time” doesn’t count if they are on their phones but they say all that matters is that we’re in the same room.
  • Were your parents always on their phones too?

First, let me just admit that I am not yet a parent, but I struggle with this as well. When I sit down to watch a show with my husband, it is easy to mindlessly scroll through Instagram or Facebook out of habit. Sometimes I don’t even notice I’m on my phone until he points it out! Second, it is never fun to get called out by teenagers, but my group issued a challenge that I feel obligated to pass on!

Also on a side note, I laughed out loud when they asked about my parents and their phone use when I was a teenager. When I was in high school, we didn’t have internet on our phones, and we certainly didn’t have fun games like Candy Crush (RIP Snake Game). This is fairly new territory for parents!

Technology isn’t going anywhere, phones aren’t going to phase out, and social media will probably always be king of the internet. So how can we better model how to balance family, work, and fun? We have to be the example in this area; otherwise, our kids will never learn acceptable boundaries and healthy practices.

Before I offer some suggestions, there are a few things I would like to point out about their statements and questions.

1. They watch you and notice.

You know the phrase, “Do as I say and not as I do”? That doesn’t fly with teenagers. They watch you. They see what you do and will push back if what you do is different than what you say. Telling teens to put down their phones while yours is still in front of your face sends a clear message that you probably aren’t intending to communicate.

2. They don’t see a difference between work and social media use of phones.

They don’t care if you are on your phone for work – if they see your phone out, it is a distraction no matter what it’s purpose. Sending email, making calls, checking your Facebook, it is all the same to them. If you are on your phone when you should be spending time with them, your excuses don’t matter – just so you know 🙂

3. They think you have a technology problem.

This absolutely cracks me up! As adults, we read books, listen to podcast, and attend seminars on helping our teenagers manage social media and their phones. We talk about this generation and their problems with connection, but they think adults are the ones with the problem! I am not saying that teens have technology under control or use it appropriately all the time, but until we prove them wrong, I do believe we are the ones with the problem.

4. They actually care about “family time.”

When they were having this discussion, they weren’t upset that they had to be present for family time. They were mad that their parents were violating the time that they set aside. One student even said that he enjoys hanging out with his mom when she isn’t distracted by her phone.

I really don’t want you to miss this point, so I will say it again in case you’re still in shock…teenagers actually care about “family time”! Even when they act like spending time as a family is the worst inconvenience, the stories they tell when you aren’t around would say otherwise.

 


 

As I said above, this is a newer problem for parents. Just like we are trying to figure out how to help our teenagers have boundaries, we are walking the same blurry line. I want you to have a good relationship with your teenager. I want you to be able to take advantage of family time – if they are willing to set aside their phones, don’t ruin it by being on yours!

While I could write several blogs on this topic, let me start with two tips that I believe could make a huge difference in your home!

Do what you ask of your kids.

This seems simple and like a no-brainer, but the more I talk to teens, the more I realize that we are failing at this. While their are perks to being an adult and setting the rules, when they are around and watching you, follow your own rules! If you ask them to put away their phones for a specific time or activity, do the same. Do they have a time limit on how much they can be on their phones? Try to stick to a similar schedule!

They are watching you, and you set the example of how to interact with your phone. This is especially true for when you drive. Ouch…but if you don’t want your teenager to text (or tweet) and drive, put your phone away in the car. Don’t text, don’t have phone conversations that can wait until you get to your destination, don’t be catching up on your Facebook comments while you are driving your kids. Show them how to be responsible and safe!

 

Make “family time” sacred.

Find small ways to make the time you spend as a family special. While it may be unrealistic to expect your teenager to put their phone away anytime they are are with a family member, you can set aside specific times that are phone-free. Some examples could be dinner time, the first 15 minutes after they get home from school, special family activities, or when you watch tv or a movie as a family. Once you ask them to make the activity you decide on phone-free, follow the rule above and put yours up as well!

This might mean that you put your phone on “do not disturb” to keep you from reading texts, checking email, or answering phone calls. Unless it is an emergency, anything on your phone can wait until that sacred time is over. You communicate the importance of family time by your actions. Distractions and phones can kill a family moment – don’t let your teenager down by not giving them your full attention!

So, what do you think? How have you set boundaries in your home? How have you made family time sacred and special? Share with us – we always love new ideas!
Karlie Duke

Karlie Duke

Director of Communications

Karlie was in one of Teen Life’s original support groups and has always had a heart for teenagers and the vulnerable life stage they are in. She has a wealth of experience to share from working with teens in ministry and leading support groups.