Snapchat + Teen Hairstyles + First Cell Phone Advice | Ep. 133

Snapchat + Teen Hairstyles + First Cell Phone Advice | Ep. 133

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Are you ready for your child’s first cell phone?

There’s a lot to consider before putting your child’s first cell phone under the tree this Christmas. If you’re not sure what to look for or how to set your teen up for success, keep reading or hit the play button! We’ve got talking points, tips, and phone options to consider before you complete your order.

We’ll also give you the latest on teen hairstyles for boys and girls and what you need to know about what’s new on Snapchat.

What’s new on Snapchat?

Before we jump into the latest features, let’s go over the basics of Snapchat for those who are new to the platform. Snapchat is a multimedia messaging app that allows users to share photos and videos with friends and followers. The defining feature of Snapchat is the ephemeral nature of its content – messages, photos, and stories disappear after a set time, adding a sense of spontaneity and impermanence to the experience.

New Features

Live Maps

With Live Maps, you can see where your friends are and, in return, they can see your location. To enhance privacy, you can enter “ghost mode” in your settings, ensuring your location remains hidden. Live Maps also showcases “Hot Spots,” allowing you to explore trending areas and see other users’ posts, even if they’re not in your friend list.

Spotlight

Snapchat’s answer to the popular short-form video format seen on Reels and TikTok is called “Spotlight.” This feature lets users create and share short video content with a wide audience, giving you a chance to showcase your creativity and gain followers.

Snapchat+

For those who want an enhanced Snapchat experience, Snapchat+ is available for a monthly fee of $3.99. With Snapchat+, you can customize your Snapchat experience by moving or removing the Snapchat AI chatbot, setting custom story expiration lengths, personalizing badges, enjoying Story Boost, and having extra Snap Replays. While some of these features may seem trivial, they can be a fun way to personalize your Snapchat usage.

Family Center

The introduction of Family Center is a significant step by Snapchat to address concerns about child safety on the platform. This in-app tool allows parents to monitor their teenage children’s interactions on Snapchat without invading their privacy. Parents can see who their children are interacting with, and Snapchat has plans to enhance this feature in the future. However, parents cannot set time limits for app usage or eavesdrop on private conversations.

Pros of Snapchat Parental Monitoring

The Family Center feature allows parents to keep an eye on their teenage children’s Snapchat activity, providing an extra layer of security.

Discover Fun New Places on Snap Maps

Live Maps and Hot Spots make it exciting to discover new places and activities, both locally and globally.

A Way to Stay Connected

Snapchat remains a popular platform for staying connected with friends and family through photos, videos, and messages.

A Way for Young People to Get News

The “Discover” tab offers a unique way for younger users to access news, trends, and entertainment.

Cons of Snapchat Limited Monitoring

While Family Center provides some parental control, it’s not as robust as some parents may desire, lacking features like setting time limits.

Location Tracking

The Live Maps feature, while exciting, raises concerns about location tracking and privacy.

Disappearing Messages and Photos

The ephemeral nature of Snapchat content can be a double-edged sword, as it can lead to misunderstandings or miscommunication.

Whether you love Snapchat or not, it remains one of the most popular apps among teens. It’s crucial to be aware of and use its features responsibly- to be aware of the privacy implications, especially when it comes to location tracking and the ephemeral nature of the platform. With the introduction of the Family Center, Snapchat is taking steps to address these concerns and make the platform safer for young users. As always, staying informed and using the platform wisely is the key to enjoying Snapchat to the fullest!

What’s trending in teen hairstyles

Hairstyles have always played a pivotal role in expressing individuality and cultural heritage. Keep reading for a look at the hottest teen hair trends for 2023, as well as the 2019 legislative development initiated by Dove, the CROWN Act.

Trending Styles for Boys

Mullets

The ’80s-inspired mullet is making a fierce comeback. This iconic hairstyle, characterized by shorter hair on the sides and back with longer hair at the top, offers a unique blend of vintage charm and contemporary flair. With modern variations and a hint of rebellion, the mullet is capturing the hearts of young boys looking to make a statement with their hair.

Perm Fronts

Perms are no longer limited to your grandma’s era. Boys are embracing perm fronts, adding texture and volume to their hair while keeping the sides short and neat. This trend allows boys to experiment with their style and achieve a unique look that stands out.

Swoops

Swoops are all about bangs and fringes that create a dramatic, eye-catching effect. They add a touch of sophistication and can be adapted to various lengths and textures, giving boys the flexibility to express their personality through their hairstyle.

Trending Hairstyles for Girls

Bangs (Taylor Bangs & Curtain Bangs)

Bangs never go out of style, and this year we’re seeing the resurgence of Taylor bangs (inspired by Taylor Swift) and curtain bangs. These styles frame the face beautifully, offering a chic and timeless look that can be customized to suit any hair type or length.

Natural Curls

Embracing natural curls is a growing trend that emphasizes the beauty of one’s hair in its true form. Girls with naturally curly hair are flaunting their stunning locks, and many are opting for shorter, textured cuts that emphasize their curls’ natural bounce and vibrancy.

Heatless Curls/Crimped

Girls are exploring heatless methods to achieve those coveted beachy waves and crimped textures. Heatless curls and crimps are not only more gentle on the hair but also showcase a fun and effortless style that’s perfect for any occasion.

Embracing Natural Hair

  • 80% of Black women reported having to change their hair to fit into the workplace.
  • Black women are 1.5 times more likely to be sent home from the workplace because of their hair.
  • Shockingly, 100 percent of Black elementary school girls in majority-white schools who report experiencing hair discrimination state they experienced the discrimination by the age of 10.

Starting from September 1, 2023, the CROWN Act came into effect in Texas schools, marking a significant step forward. The Texas statute clearly states that any dress or grooming policy adopted by a school district “may not discriminate against a hair texture or protective hairstyle commonly or historically associated with race.” This law is a beacon of hope for a more inclusive and respectful world where people are free to express their cultural heritage and personal style without fear of discrimination.

In conclusion, 2023 is all about embracing diversity and individuality in hair trends. Whether you’re a boy looking to channel the spirit of the ’80s or a girl proudly flaunting your natural curls, your hair is a canvas for self-expression. Additionally, the CROWN Act’s progression is a significant step towards fostering an inclusive society where everyone is free to be themselves, with their natural hair celebrated and respected. So, go ahead and embrace the hair trend that resonates with you and remember that your hair is a beautiful reflection of your unique identity.

Are you thinking of getting your kid their first cell phone this Christmas?

The holiday season is approaching, and if you’re contemplating whether to gift your child their first cell phone, you’re not alone. The question of when to introduce your child to a smartphone is a topic that many parents grapple with, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. In this blog post, we’ll explore the complexities of this decision and offer some guidance to help you navigate this milestone.

No “Right Age” for a First Cell Phone

It’s essential to understand that there’s no universal “right age” for a child to receive their first cell phone. While the “Wait Until 8th” pledge has gained popularity, it’s worth noting that it’s becoming less practical in the modern age of technology. The demands of school, the need for communication, and the prevalence of digital tools make the decision more complex than ever.

Recent Trends in Kids’ Smartphone Ownership

Recent survey data shows that 42% of kids in the United States have their first cell phone by the age of 10. By the time they reach 14, smartphone ownership climbs to an astounding 91%. While these numbers offer a snapshot of current trends, they shouldn’t be the sole basis for your decision.

Developmental Readiness Over Age

Experts emphasize that developmental readiness is more important than age when considering a child’s first cell phone. Some important developmental milestones that might guide your decision include:

  1. Complex Thoughts and Improved Reasoning: Can your child handle more complex thoughts and reasoning? Are they capable of making responsible decisions?
  2. Developing Solutions: Is your child showing signs of developing their own solutions to problems? Are they becoming more self-reliant?
  3. Empathy and Consideration: Is your child demonstrating empathy and thinking of others? Are they mindful of how their actions affect those around them?
  4. Understanding Right and Wrong: Are they developing a stronger sense of right and wrong? Are they able to distinguish between appropriate and inappropriate behavior?
  5. Respecting Boundaries: Is your child responding appropriately to limits and boundaries set by parents and teachers?

Talking About Expectations

Before you decide to get your child a cell phone, it’s crucial to have a conversation about expectations. Consider creating a contract together that outlines how they will and won’t use their phone. Here are some important questions to get the conversation started:

  • What would you use the phone for, and why do you need it?
  • How much daily phone usage do you think is appropriate?
  • Where will you charge your device at night?
  • Are there times during the day when phone use should be restricted?
  • What are the rules about using the phone at school?
  • What consequences should be in place if the phone is lost?

Alternatives to Smartphones

If you’re not comfortable giving your child a smartphone but want to provide them with a communication device, there are alternatives to consider:

Smart Watches
Options like the Gabb Watch, Apple Watch SE, Gizmo Watch, and TickTalk Watch offer limited functionality, allowing communication without full internet access. However, be aware that many schools are now banning smartwatches in the classroom, so they may need to remain in lockers or backpacks during school hours.

Kid Phones
Devices like the Gabb Phone, Pinwheel, Light Phone 2, and Wisephone are designed for children and provide essential communication features without the distractions of a full-fledged smartphone.

Flip Phones
Consider getting a basic flip phone with no internet access. While this may limit some features, it can provide a communication tool without the added distractions of smartphones. The decision to get your child their first cell phone is a personal one that depends on many factors. Focus on your child’s developmental readiness and have an open, honest conversation about expectations and responsibilities. There are various communication alternatives to consider if you’re not ready to provide a smartphone.

Ultimately, the key is to make a decision that aligns with your family’s values and ensures your child’s safety and well-being in the digital age.

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Digital SAT + Adderall Shortage + Talking about Violence with Teens | Ep. 132

Digital SAT + Adderall Shortage + Talking about Violence with Teens | Ep. 132

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How do I talk about violence with my teen?

Talking about violence and political issues with our teenagers can be challenging. If your child (or one of their friends) has a cell phone they are inevitably exposed to a multitude of complex and often distressing topics.

The recent Israel/Gaza situation, concerns about gun violence in schools, and the impending elections have undoubtedly raised anxiety levels among teenagers. Questions about the possibility of another world war, the prospect of a military draft, and the implications for their future have become pressing issues.

Discussing these challenging subjects with your teens while providing them with accurate information is crucial to their developing discernment, as well as in calming anxiety or fears they may have.

Starting the Conversation

It’s crucial to initiate the conversation about these pressing issues and create a safe space for your teens to ask questions and share their concerns. Here are some steps to help you get started:

Open the Door

Begin by asking open-ended questions. You might say, “What have you heard about the Israel/Gaza situation? What questions do you have? What are your friends saying about it? Have you come across anything on social media?”

Honesty is Key

It’s essential to provide truthful, accurate information using real words. While we don’t want to scare our teens, if they ask questions, it’s because they want real answers. Be straightforward and transparent in your responses.

Connection is Vital

When discussing these topics, take the time to sit down with your teen, make eye contact, and be fully present. Creating a connection is essential to build trust and ensure that they feel heard and understood.

Model Self-Care

It’s okay to let your teens know when you need a break or are feeling saddened or overwhelmed by current events. By being open about your own self-care practices, you are setting an example for them on how to manage their own emotional well-being.

Not All-Knowing

It’s perfectly acceptable not to have all the answers. If you’re unsure about something, offer to look it up together or tell them you will research and provide them with a response later. This shows your commitment to learning and growing alongside them.

Encourage Ongoing Dialogue

The goal is to foster a culture of open communication. Encourage your teens to keep asking questions and sharing their feelings. Let them know that the door is always open for them to come and discuss their concerns.

Navigating Explicit Content on Social Media

Today, social media platforms like TikTok are sources of information and news for our teenagers. However, this also means they are exposed to explicit and sometimes disturbing content. It’s essential to address this issue as well. Consider using these strategies:

  1. Educate Them on Responsible Content Consumption: Help your teens understand the importance of consuming content responsibly. Encourage them to be critical of the information they come across and seek reputable sources for news.
  2. Set Boundaries Together: Discuss with your teenagers the importance of setting boundaries on social media and consuming age-appropriate content. Offer guidance on how to filter or limit explicit content.
  3. Stay Informed: Keep yourself informed about the platforms your teens use, so you can have informed conversations and offer guidance on safe and responsible online behavior.

By creating a safe and open environment, maintaining honesty, and modeling self-care, you can help teens navigate these challenging topics while fostering a sense of security and understanding. Encourage them to ask questions, share their feelings, and remain actively engaged in the ongoing dialogue as they grow and learn about the world around them.

 

 

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Olivia Rodrigo + NPC Streams + Finding Trusted Adults | Ep. 131

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What makes a trusted adult and how can adults help teens thrive?

“Discernment is so important,” says Sarah Brooks on the Next Gen Now Podcast. When it comes to the influential figures in a teenager’s life, having people they genuinely like is not enough; these individuals must also be trusted voices. But what exactly makes a trusted adult, and how can we help teens find them?

Here are a few of the qualities that define a trusted adult, along with some tips for both parents and non-parents on how to be that reliable source of support for teenagers.

What are the qualities of a trusted adult?

Whether you are looking for trusted adults to surround your teen with or looking to start a conversation about people they might already know and trust, having a clear picture of what to look for can help.

Someone They Can Talk To

A trusted adult is someone a teenager can openly communicate with. They are approachable and willing to listen without judgment. Teens should feel comfortable discussing their thoughts, concerns, and dreams with this person.

Available for Communication

In today’s digital age, communication is not limited to face-to-face interactions. Trusted adults should be reachable via text, calls, or other messaging platforms. This accessibility ensures that teens can seek advice and support when needed.

Provides Encouragement

Encouragement is a crucial component of trust. A trusted adult motivates and uplifts teenagers, boosting their self-esteem and helping them develop a positive self-image. Their words and actions should inspire confidence.

Willing to Give Honest Feedback

A trusted adult is not just a cheerleader; they also act as a guiding light. They are unafraid to call out a teenager when needed, helping them recognize their mistakes and grow from them.

A Safe Haven

Above all, a trusted adult is someone with whom a teenager feels safe. Teens should be able to confide in this person without fear of ridicule or betrayal. This safety net is essential for building trust.

So how can we help teens find trusted adults to confide in?

We’re so glad you asked.

Ask Who They Would Turn To

Sometimes, teenagers already have trusted adults in their lives but may not realize it. Parents and mentors can initiate a conversation by asking who the teen would turn to if they needed help or what are the qualities of a trusted adult.

Recognize Existing Trusted Adults

Chances are, teens have several potential trusted adults in their lives. This could be a teacher, coach, youth minister, parent of a friend, or a family member. Identifying and acknowledging these individuals is an essential step in cultivating trust.

Aim for a Network of Trust

Ideally, teens should have at least five trusted adults in their lives. A variety of perspectives and experiences can help them navigate different aspects of life. Parents can even ask people they trust to take a more prominent role as trusted adults, giving them permission to offer counsel without always involving the parent.

Encouraging mentor relationships for your teen

One idea on how to encourage mentorship relationships for your teen is to organize a coming-of-age event like Caleb’s dad did for him. Caleb’s 13th birthday marked a transformative experience. His dad organized a hiking trip with a group of men he viewed as trusted adults. These were individuals Caleb knew and loved but hadn’t considered as people he could turn to in place of his dad. However, this experience allowed him to start viewing them that way. It doesn’t have to be a hiking trip either. It could be a special dinner or a coffee date!

How to be a trusted adult

If you have teens in your life and are a trusted adult, there are three things that teens need you to do.

  • Listen
  • Encourage
  • Keep it confidential (unless they are hurting themselves)

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School Lunch Delivery + TikTok Shop + 2023 Fall Preview | Ep. 130

School Lunch Delivery + TikTok Shop + 2023 Fall Preview | Ep. 130

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Should students be allowed to have school lunches delivered?

Most parents went to school when the options were to pack your lunch or buy it from the school cafeteria. It’s safe to say that times have changed. Today, many schools are managing a different kind of lunch crowd where students order through a food delivery app like Uber Eats or Door Dash and have lunch delivered. Keep scrolling for the pros and cons and why schools are divided on what to allow.

We’ve also got the latest in viral TikTok recipes, e-commerce revolutions and exciting fall previews, so let’s go!

A TikTok Recipe to Try

As of October 2023, meatball sub videos on TikTok have over 42.3 million views. They can be as easy as a loaf of French bread, frozen meatballs, a jar of marinara sauce and shredded mozzarella. Or you can be like @theTessaSmith and make your own meatballs, bread and sauce from scratch.

Have you tried it, yet?

Meatball Subs: the (still pretty easy) Gourmet Version

Recipe for Marinara

28oz can diced or whole peeled tomatoes
1/2 yellow onion, diced 2 cloves garlic, sliced
2 tbsp olive oil
2-4 anchovy filets (optional but YUM)
About 1/4 cut fresh basil (or 2 tbsp dried)
Salt and Pepper to taste

In a large sauce pan, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add in onion and garlic and cook until softened, about 3-5 minutes. Add in anchovies. Stir. Then add tomatoes and basil. Gently simmer over medium-low for about 30 minutes, stirring occasionally (while you cook the meatballs). Then use an immersion blender to blend. Season with salt and pepper to taste.

Recipe for Meatballs

1 lb ground beef
2 eggs
1 tbsp fresh parsley, finely chopped
1 tbsp grated onion
1 garlic clove, grated
1/2 cup grated parmigiana
1/2 cup breadcrumbs

Heavily season with salt and pepper. Mix everything in a large bowl. (You can use your clean hands.) Divide into even balls that are about 2 tbsp each. Bake at 425F for about 12 minutes, or until the bottoms are browning and internal temp is 160F.

Add meatballs to sauce.

Assemble the Meatball Subs

2 18in baguettes
2 8oz balls mozzarella, sliced in 1/2 in rounds
Olive oil for toasting
Extra parsley for garnish

Slice the baguette in half, remove some bread from the bottom half to hollow it out. Drizzle with olive oil. Broil cut side up for a couple minutes to toast. Remove from the oven and fill up the bottoms with meatballs, top with extra sauce, a layer of mozzarella, and then pop it back in the oven on broil to melt/bubble the cheese. Remove from the oven, top with some extra parsley, the baguette top, and slice it however you prefer.

Meatball Subs: the Quick Fix

1 jar of your favorite marinara sauce
1 bag of frozen meatballs
baguette, Texas Toast or garlic bread
mozzarella
olive oil
fresh parsley, optional

Heat meatballs and sauce according to the package instructions. Mix together over low/medium heat. Slice the baguette in half. Bake according to instructions. Remove some bread from the bottom half to hollow it out. Drizzle with olive oil. Broil cut side up for a couple minutes to toast. Remove from the oven and fill up the bottoms with meatballs, top with extra sauce, a layer of mozzarella, and then pop it back in the oven on broil to melt/bubble the cheese. Remove from the oven, top with some extra parsley, the baguette top, and slice it however you prefer.

Pro tip: Get your teens involved in the kitchen!

Look up different videos and decide together which one to try or just follow the instructions above.

Let us know how it goes!

Should students be allowed to have their school lunch delivered?

Meatball subs are great for dinner, but what about lunch?

Recently schools have faced an influx of school lunch deliveries, and it’s causing quite a stir. Maybe you’ve already heard about it from your student or your student’s school.

Why is it such a problem though? Here’s a quick list of some of the issues:

  • Safety Risk: It can pose a security concern for the school, with unknown delivery personnel entering the premises.
  • Congestion in the Front Office: The influx of delivery drivers can cause chaos at the school’s front office. Some schools have tried to solve this by designating a table outside the school for deliveries, but that can result in confusion and even lunch theft.
  • Timeliness: Door Dash may not always deliver on time, causing students to miss out on their lunch.
  • Health Concerns: Door Dash meals may not always be as healthy as what the school cafeteria provides.
  • Allergies: Allergic reactions to unregulated outside food can be a significant concern.
  • Expense: The cost of Door Dash can add up quickly, especially for students.

How can we set teens up for success at lunch?

To make lunchtime enjoyable and stress-free, consider the following tips:

  • Find ideas on TikTok or Google. Discover innovative and exciting lunch ideas to keep things fresh.
  • Avoid microwave-dependent meals. Opt for meals that don’t require microwaving, ensuring a hassle-free experience.
  • Mix it up. Keep variety in mind to prevent lunchtime monotony.
  • Involve teens in planning and making lunch. Encourage teens to participate in preparing their meals for a sense of ownership and creativity.

What you should know about TikTok Shop

TikTok is not just for fun and entertainment; it’s also a burgeoning e-commerce platform. Launched on September 12, 2023, TikTok Shop is making waves in the digital shopping world.

Here’s what you need to know:

  • E-commerce Boom: E-commerce was a $100 billion industry last year, with Indonesia contributing a significant $52 billion.
  • Sales Aspirations: TikTok Shop aims for $10 million in daily sales but is currently at $4 million in the US.
  • Influencer Partnerships: TikTok Shop collaborates with influencers to promote its products and services.
  • What It Offers: In-Feed Video & LIVE Shopping, an affiliate program that lets people earn commissions on sales, and Shop Ads.

What to talk with teens about TikTok Shop

With this new shopping experience, it’s essential to educate teenagers about responsible online shopping:

  • Beware of Scams: Advise them to be cautious and recognize potential scams.
  • Budgeting: Encourage them to ask themselves if they really need the item and whether they have the money for it.
  • Trustworthy Sources: If in doubt, suggest finding the same item on a reputable site or avoiding untrustworthy sources.
  • Secure Payments: Recommend using secure methods like Apple Pay or Visa Gift Cards to protect their financial information.

2023 Fall Entertainment Preview

As we head into the fall season, teenagers have plenty to look forward to in terms of entertainment.

Here’s a quick peek at what’s on the horizon:

Let us know in the comments or on social media which one of these tips, tricks or conversations you find the most useful!

And don’t forget to like the podcast and leave a review in your favorite podcast app.

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Teen Back Talk + Halloween Ideas + Sport Watching Trends | Ep. 129

Teen Back Talk + Halloween Ideas + Sport Watching Trends | Ep. 129

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How to Deal with Teen Back Talk

Facing the resistance of the teenage spirit can be an uphill battle without the right perspective. In episode 129 of the Teen Life Podcast, we look at ways to change the way we look at teen back talk so that parents and teens are empowered more and offended less.

We’ve also got costume and trunk-or-treat ideas, news on AI chatbots and new ways teens are watching sports.

Keep reading for more details or listen now to the podcast!

Costumes for the Spooktacular Night

Halloween is a time for creative expression, and the choice of costume sets the stage for the night’s festivities! We’ve got predictions and tips for making October 31 fun for everyone. Tell us in the comments whether or not you plan to dress up!

Trending costume ideas for 2023:

  • Barbie & Ken: The classic Barbie and Ken duo is making a resurgence, especially for high school homecoming dress-up days. You’ll be sure to turn heads as you step out looking like the iconic plastic power couple.
  • Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce: For those who love to blend pop culture and sports, dressing up as Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce can be a dynamic choice.
  • Nacho Libre: Pay tribute to the legendary Jack Black character from the cult classic “Nacho Libre.”
  • Resurgence of Star Wars: With Anakin, Jedi, Ahsoka, and more making a comeback, the force is strong with this Halloween trend.
  • Anime/Manga Characters: Dive into the world of anime and manga, with characters from popular shows like One Piece on Netflix.

Trunk-or-treat themes to decorate your car trunk and delight young trick-or-treaters:

  • Mario: Transform your trunk into a mini Mushroom Kingdom, complete with Mario, Luigi, and Princess Peach.
  • Barbie Dreamland: Create a magical Barbie-themed world filled with pink and glitter.
  • Trolls: Bring the whimsical world of Trolls to life with colorful decorations and lots of hugs.
  • Minions: Get into the mischief spirit with a Minions-themed trunk full of bananas and laughter.
  • Beach Vibes: Who says Halloween can’t be a beach party? Deck out your trunk with sand, surfboards, and beach balls.
  • Christmas: Go all out with an early Christmas theme, complete with ornaments and jolly music.

As always, remember to include your teen in planning any family activities and in setting expectations for the night, like curfew or where they plan to be.

Be sure to check out episode 78 or episode 29 of the podcast for more on how to celebrate Halloween with teenagers and Halloween safety.

The World of AI Chatbots

If you are on the internet at all, you have almost certainly encountered an AI chatbot. From banks to retail to social media, there are many different versions and levels of AI interactions.

Several chatbot options include apps, specifically designed for companionship, like Replika or Character.AI, use well-known voices and personalities to appeal to a broader audience and create a more immersive experience.

The most recent addition to the celebrity chatbot experience, is Meta AI. The tool enables users to engage in virtual conversations with AI characters that use the personas of public figures, including the likes of Tom Brady and Dwayne Wade, MrBeast, and even Snoop Dogg.

While AI chatbots are certainly a novel concept and sure to entertain, it’s also worth mentioning some conversation points to keep teenagers safe and aware of their environment online and off.

The integration of AI and celebrity personas into social media interactions has the potential to blur the lines between reality and simulation. For teenagers, this can be both exciting and precarious. They must tread carefully, especially when it comes to personal information and financial transactions, but also when it comes to emotional health.
The Risks of AI Chatbots
  1. Privacy Concerns
    Engaging with AI characters may involve sharing personal information, which could be misused if in the wrong hands. Teens should be cautious about revealing sensitive data, even in seemingly harmless conversations.
  2. Financial Risks
    The use of AI characters could extend to virtual purchases or donations. The recent AI deepfake ad featuring MrBeast offering an iPhone in exchange for a small donation serves as a reminder that online personas can be manipulated. Teens need to be vigilant and make sure they understand the authenticity of such interactions before parting with their money.
  3. Cybersecurity
    As the lines between reality and simulation blur, the risk of falling victim to cyberattacks or scams becomes more pronounced. Teens should be educated about online safety, recognizing potential threats, and safeguarding their digital presence.
  4. Emotional Risks
    Because AI chatbots like Meta AI, Replica, Character.AI and others can seem so real, it is easy to forget that they aren’t human and people become fixated with the characters. What’s more, they are designed to seek positive feedback, which can create a positive feedback loop. This is designed to keep the user engaged, but can easily lead to an unhealthy dependence, which in turn could interfere with healthy “real world” relationships.

Empowering Teens with Logic about AI

It’s essential to empower teenagers with the knowledge and skills they need to navigate this new digital landscape safely. Parents, educators, and responsible adults should engage in open and honest conversations with teens about the potential pitfalls of AI-driven celebrity interactions. This includes discussing privacy settings, avoiding sharing personal information, and verifying the authenticity of online personas before engaging with them.

As chatbots and other AI resources reshape the social media landscape, we must encourage teens to enjoy the entertainment it offers while being vigilant and cautious in their interactions. The merging of AI and celebrity personas is undoubtedly fun, but we need to keep an open dialogue about appropriate use and how to stay safe. In this ever-evolving digital age, knowledge and discernment are the keys to making the most of these new and innovative opportunities without sacrificing personal or emotional safety.

The New Way Teens Are Watching Sports

The way teenagers consume sports content is changing. Traditional full-game viewing is giving way to watching highlights on platforms like TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram. According to recent statistics, 32% of Gen Z now prefers watching live sports through authorized streaming services. This shift is driven by a combination of convenience, preference for shorter content, and the prevalence of highlight reels across social media.

In the sports world, significant changes are afoot. MLB has introduced innovations such as a pitch clock, new uniforms, and different branding, resulting in an increase in in-person attendance and shorter game durations. The NFL has also ventured into unique collaborations, like the “Toy Story Mode” game aired on Nickelodeon, showcasing the evolving landscape of sports entertainment.

Navigating Teen Back Talk

As adolescents enter the age of consent, their journey toward independence is marked by a natural inclination to test boundaries and express themselves. One prominent aspect of this phase is what parents often refer to as “back talk.”

At first glance, back talk may seem like disrespectful behavior that challenges parental authority. But what if that’s not a bad thing?

Back talk can signify a significant step in a teenager’s development. It reflects a willingness to engage in discussions and a level of comfort in expressing their ideas and feelings to adults, especially parents. In essence, it’s a sign that they are becoming more independent thinkers.

Which, as uncomfortable as it may be, is the goal. Right?

Flipping the Narrative on Back Talk

It’s crucial to remember that when teenagers engage in back talk, they may not be acting out of disrespect or defiance. In fact, they might be acting out of courage, demonstrating their willingness to stand up to adults. They are testing their newfound independence and learning to assert themselves in the world.

Imagine for a moment that instead of back talk, your teenager simply ignored you. The latter scenario is far less desirable. Back talk, albeit sometimes challenging, is a form of communication, an invitation to engage in a discussion. It’s an opportunity to build a bridge of understanding and maintain an open line of communication with your teen.

Turning Back Talk into Constructive Dialogue

So, what can parents do to transform these moments of back talk into meaningful and productive conversations?
Here are some strategies to consider:
  1. Take a Deep Breath
    When faced with back talk, take a deep breath and remind yourself that this is an opportunity for growth. Reacting with anger or frustration may shut down the conversation.
  2. Engage in Discussion
    Instead of dismissing the back talk or responding with authority, use it as a gateway to a respectful and open conversation. Ask questions, and encourage your teenager to express their thoughts and feelings.
  3. Listen Actively
    Actively listen to what your teenager has to say. Show that you value their perspective, even if you don’t necessarily agree. Listening is a powerful tool for strengthening the parent-teen relationship.
  4. Acknowledge Feelings
    While it’s essential to validate their feelings, also discuss how they can express themselves with a more respectful tone and choice of words in the future. This guidance will help them refine their communication skills.
  5. Consistency Is Key
    Keep showing up, both in your support and in modeling effective communication. Over time, these interactions can teach your teenager valuable lessons in negotiation, respect, and understanding.

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