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Palworld + Teen Dating Advice | Ep. 146

Palworld + Teen Dating Advice | Ep. 146

by | Feb 13, 2024 | Dating, Holidays, Podcast, Social Media, Technology

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Teen dating terms and tips every parent should know.

What advice would you give your teenage self about dating?

Despite vast changes in the romantic landscape, the emotional high of teen romance is universal. If anything, it’s amplified by being constantly connected, a heightened sense of vigilance, and a lack of commitment or trust. Teenagers are dealing with all the dangers and emotional disconnect of a techno world, adding to the emotional stress of being a teenager.

So what can parents and other caring adults do to help?

 

The number one desire of nearly every teenager is a caring adult who is willing to listen! Listening without judgment is the first step to helping teens navigate relationships in a healthy, constructive way.

That said, here’s our top advice for teens to stay healthy in dating relationships:

Dating should be a thrilling experience filled with laughter, butterflies, and meaningful connections. To help make the most of the dating journey, here are some essential tips to keep in mind.

Embrace the Fun

Dating should be a source of joy and excitement, not stress or pressure. Remember, it’s okay to feel nervous, but try to focus on the positive aspects of getting to know someone new. Keep things light-hearted, enjoy each other’s company, and don’t forget to laugh along the way. The goal is to create memorable experiences and forge connections that bring happiness into your life.

Maintain Your Independence

While it’s exciting to spend time with a romantic partner, it’s essential to retain your sense of independence and nurture your friendships. Don’t let your relationship consume all of your time and energy. Continue pursuing your interests, hanging out with friends, and prioritizing your own well-being. A healthy relationship should complement your life, not overshadow it.

Set Clear Boundaries

Establishing boundaries is crucial in any relationship, especially during the early stages of dating. Be upfront about your expectations and limits from the beginning. Boundaries aren’t just about physical intimacy; they also encompass emotional needs and personal space. For example, you might decide to take things slow, refrain from discussing long-term commitments like marriage, or set limits on the amount of time you spend together to ensure you maintain a healthy balance in your life.

Be mindful of each other’s feelings, thoughts, and personal space. Avoid pressuring your partner into sharing more than they’re comfortable with or making assumptions about their emotions. Healthy communication and empathy are key to navigating emotional boundaries and building trust in your relationship.

Prioritize Your Time

It’s essential to maintain a sense of balance in your life. Make sure to allocate time for your friends, family, hobbies, and responsibilities outside of your relationship. Setting aside designated time for these activities not only enriches your life but also prevents you from becoming overly dependent on your partner for fulfillment.

Listen to the full conversation on the podcast or you can read more tips in our blog post Teenage Romance: Tips for Teens and Parents!

Teen Terms Translated

Situationship: According to dictionary.com, “A situationship is often discussed as being similar to a friends-with-benefits relationship, which usually involves sexual activity without a commitment to be exclusive to each other. A situationship is often described as a relationship that is more than friendship but less than a committed relationship.”

Ick: The ick is a sudden feeling of disgust that seems to come out of nowhere. It can happen when a dating partner does or says something that makes them suddenly unattractive.

Red flag: Like it sounds, a red flag signals that something is not ok. It suggests that there is something unhealthy or even dangerous about a person or a relationship.

Green flag: A green flag is an enthusiastic endorsement of a person or relationship. It’s the idea that it might be true love.

Beige Flag: It’s not a red flag level concern, but a beige flag is something that just leaves you wondering why someone would post something. It can also be a beige flag for someone or something that is lacking in personality or is just “blah”.

Pink Flag: A pink flag is something that seems like a red flag at first, but after getting to know the person, there’s enough clarification to say that it’s really ok.

Also in this episode:

  • Palworld is the latest in popular online gaming for teens.
  • Taylor Swift is furious after a social media challenge led to explicit deepfakes of her circulating on Twitter.
  • Did you know? Apple recently updated everyone’s phone and installed the Journal app, which allows teens and adults to save photos and text behind a password, regardless of parental controls.
  • BeReal streaks– what are they and are they a good thing?

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources.

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Valentine Gift and Date Ideas + Learning an Instrument | Ep. 145

Valentine Gift and Date Ideas + Learning an Instrument | Ep. 145

by | Feb 6, 2024 | Dating, Holidays, Parenting, Podcast

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The Benefits of Learning to Play an Instrument

In a world filled with screens and digital distractions, encouraging your teen to pick up a musical instrument might seem like a quaint suggestion.

However, the benefits of learning to play an instrument extend far beyond the realms of entertainment. From fostering discipline to enhancing cognitive abilities, the journey of learning an instrument is a symphony of personal and intellectual development. 

Let’s start with the advantages of embracing music education, discuss some easy instruments to start with, and highlight the importance of delving into the world of music theory.

Why Music Benefits Every Teen

  1. Cognitive Development
    Playing an instrument engages various regions of the brain simultaneously, enhancing cognitive abilities such as memory, attention, and problem-solving skills. Research has shown that musical training can have a positive impact on academic performance, particularly in subjects like mathematics and language.

  2. Discipline and Time Management
    Learning an instrument requires consistent practice and dedication. As teens commit to regular practice sessions, they develop discipline and time management skills. This commitment can translate into improved academic performance and a strong work ethic that will benefit them in various aspects of life.
  3. Emotional Expression and Stress Relief
    Music is a powerful form of emotional expression. Learning to play an instrument provides a healthy outlet for teens to express their feelings and cope with stress. Playing music can be a therapeutic and cathartic experience, allowing teens to navigate the complexities of adolescence with greater emotional intelligence.
  4. Social Skills
    Joining a school band or participating in musical ensembles introduces teens to teamwork and collaboration. Playing in a group setting fosters a sense of community and helps teens develop valuable social skills such as communication, cooperation, and empathy.

Try these instruments for great start.

Ukulele
The ukulele is a fantastic choice for beginners due to its small size, simplicity, and the ease with which basic chords can be learned. It’s a great introduction to string instruments and provides a fun way to start making music.

Keyboard/Piano
The piano is another beginner-friendly instrument. Its layout is logical, making it easier for beginners to grasp musical concepts. Many popular songs have simple piano arrangements, making it an enjoyable instrument to learn.

Guitar
While the guitar may seem challenging at first, it’s a versatile instrument that can be learned gradually. Starting with basic chords and simple songs allows teens to build confidence and progress at their own pace.

The Benefits of Learning Music Theory:

Understanding music theory enhances the overall learning experience and provides a solid foundation for musical proficiency. Here’s why music theory is essential:

  • Improves Musical Fluency: Knowing music theory enables teens to read sheet music, understand musical symbols, and communicate effectively with other musicians. This fluency accelerates their learning and opens up a broader range of musical opportunities.

  • Encourages Creativity: Music theory is not about rigid rules but rather a set of guidelines that empower teens to experiment and create their own music. It unlocks the door to creativity, allowing them to compose and arrange their pieces.
  • Facilitates Mastery of the Instrument: A strong grasp of music theory enables teens to understand the underlying principles of their chosen instrument. This knowledge contributes to mastery, allowing them to go beyond rote learning and truly connect with the music they play.

Learning to play an instrument is a transformative journey that goes beyond the simple act of making music. It nurtures discipline, enhances cognitive abilities, fosters emotional expression, and develops social skills. Starting with easy instruments like the ukulele, keyboard/piano, or guitar can make the initial learning phase enjoyable and accessible. Additionally, delving into music theory provides a deeper understanding of the art form, unlocking a world of creative possibilities.

As a parent or teen coach, you can get excited when your teen embarks on a dream of becoming a rock star. It may seem like just a fun pastime, but the intellectual and social benefits go well beyond child’s play!

If you’re interested in learning more…

Books:

“The Talent Code: Greatness Isn’t Born. It’s Grown. Here’s How.” by Daniel Coyle

“Musicophilia: Tales of Music and the Brain” by Oliver Sacks

“The Practice of Practice: How to Boost Your Music Skills” by Jonathan Harnum

“This Is Your Brain on Music: The Science of a Human Obsession” by Daniel J. Levitin

Websites and Articles:

American Psychological Association (APA): Music Students Score Better in Math, Science, English Than Nonmusical Peers

Psychology Today: Musical Training Optimizes Brain Function

Psychology Today: Music and the Brain

Online Learning Platforms:

Yousician – An interactive platform for learning various instruments, including guitar, piano, and ukulele.

Coursera – Fundamentals of Music Theory – A comprehensive online course for beginners interested in music theory.

Instrument-Specific Resources:

Ukulele Underground – Offers tutorials and resources for ukulele players of all levels.

JustinGuitar – A popular website for learning guitar with beginner-friendly lessons.

Piano Marvel – An online platform for learning piano with interactive lessons and practice tools.

Also, remember to explore local music schools, community centers, and private music teachers for personalized guidance and additional resources.

Dating Advice for Teens:

Navigating teen relationships is not easy. Balancing school, family, friends, and extracurriculars is hard enough! These tips are great for encouraging teens who want to date while also keeping it fun and age-appropriate.

 

  • Be intentional. Simply being thoughtful and intentional can go a long way to show you care! Plan dates and gifts ahead of time. Use your time together to encourage and uplift.
  • Focus on having fun. Teenage relationships should be FUN! If they are causing stress or full of fighting and tears, it might be time to move on.
  • Set expectations early. Talk about boundaries and how much time you want to spend together at the beginning. It is helpful when both people come into the relationship on the same page.
  • Know where you are in your relationship. Don’t rush things or compare your relationship to others. It is okay to take your time and enjoy the relationship for what it is!

Also in this episode:

  • Valentine’s Day gifts, dates, and advice for parents of teens.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources.

Have a question?

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About Us

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Director of Communications

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Program Director

Caleb Hatchett

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Podcast Host

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Teens Turning 18 + Dungeons and Dragons | Ep. 144

Teens Turning 18 + Dungeons and Dragons | Ep. 144

by | Jan 30, 2024 | Entertainment, Parenting, Podcast

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What you need to know when your teen is turning 18.

When teens turn 18, it is cause for celebration! Parents and teens alike can pat themselves on the back for having made it to this point!

This milestone brings about significant changes in the dynamics of your relationship with your child.

Here’s a guide on how to deal with these changes while considering parental rights, teen rights, and adjustments in your parenting style.

A Word on Parental Rights and Teen Rights

In most places, turning 18 marks the age of majority, where your teenager gains legal adulthood. This means they have the right to make decisions about their life, including education, healthcare, and finances.

Communication is key! Maintain open and honest communication with your teenager. Discuss the shift in responsibilities and decision-making, emphasizing the importance of responsible choices.

Three ways parental rights change when a teen turns 18.

  • To see 18-year-old’s medical records, grades, bank statements, your child has to formally agree and give consent.
  • You no longer automatically have the authority to make healthcare decisions for them. Even if they are still covered by your health insurance and you are paying the bill. This means that if your child has an accident or illness and is temporarily disabled, you may need court approval to act on their behalf or even to be informed of their medical status.
  • FERPA also prevents you from seeing grades and getting transcripts, even if you are paying for school.

Especially if you have a high school student who turned 18, here are four forms that you might want to fill out so you can help your teen in an emergency:

Also in this episode:

  • Sports betting, terms, and gambling resources.
  • Dungeons and Dragons is becoming mainstream. Here’s what you need to know.

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Tobin Hodges

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Caleb Hatchett

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Podcast Host

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Teen Responsiveness + Cell Phone Boundaries | Ep. 143

Teen Responsiveness + Cell Phone Boundaries | Ep. 143

by | Jan 23, 2024 | Parenting, Podcast, School, Technology

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An Adult Guide to Navigating Cell Phone Boundaries for Teens

In the digital age, cell phones have become an integral part of our daily lives, especially for teenagers. They serve as a means of communication, entertainment, and learning. However, as teachers and parents, guiding teens to establish healthy boundaries with their cell phones is crucial for their overall well-being and development.

Of course, there are lots of opinions on how to approach this topic, but we’ve put together some suggestions to get you started.

Here are some essential tips to navigate cell phone boundaries for teens:

Establish clear expectations.

Communication is key. Set clear guidelines on when and how cell phones should be used. Discuss the importance of responsible usage, including limitations on screen time during meals, study hours, and bedtime. Collaborate with teens to create a balanced plan that respects their independence while ensuring accountability.

Check out Josh Shipp’s free download to create a cell phone contract with your teen.

Educate teens on digital wellness.

Teach teens about the concept of digital wellness. Encourage them to take breaks, engage in physical activities, and maintain a healthy balance between online and offline activities. Discuss the impact of excessive screen time on mental health and the importance of managing their online presence responsibly.

You might even consider a digital safety course like this one for schools or this one for families.

Lead by example.

Parents and teachers serve as role models. Demonstrate healthy cell phone habits by practicing what you preach. Show teens the importance of being present during conversations, meals, and family time without being glued to screens. Model self-discipline in your own technology use.

Be a safe place to talk.

Create a safe environment where teens feel comfortable discussing their online experiences, concerns, and challenges. Encourage open dialogue without judgment. Offer guidance on handling cyberbullying, privacy settings, and navigating the digital world responsibly.

Implement tech free zones.

Designate specific areas or times as technology-free zones, such as bedrooms or family gatherings. Encourage face-to-face interactions and quality time without the distraction of cell phones. Emphasize the importance of real connections over virtual ones.

Utilize Parental Controls and Monitoring Tools

Explore parental control features provided by cell phone carriers or third-party applications. These tools can help regulate screen time, block inappropriate content, and track usage patterns. However, balance monitoring with trust and open communication to build a healthy relationship based on mutual respect.

Encourage positive usage.

Guide teens to explore constructive ways to use their cell phones. Encourage them to access educational apps, creative content, or volunteering opportunities online. Help them recognize the potential of technology for personal growth and skill development.

Stay informed and updated on the latest trends, apps, and pitfalls.

Technology evolves rapidly. Stay informed about the latest trends, apps, and social media platforms popular among teens. Understanding their digital landscape enables better guidance and support.

Subscribe to our weekly updates for tips, tricks, trends, and ways to connect with your teen.

Collaborate with school initiatives.

Teachers can integrate lessons on digital citizenship and responsible technology use into the curriculum. Engage students in discussions, workshops, or activities focused on online safety, critical thinking, and ethical behavior in the digital world.

Don’t panic.

Establishing healthy cell phone boundaries for teens requires a collaborative effort between teachers, parents, and teens themselves. By fostering open communication, setting clear expectations, and being positive role models, we can empower teens to navigate the digital world responsibly while prioritizing their well-being.

Remember, it’s not about eliminating technology but about teaching teens to use it mindfully and purposefully, creating a balanced approach that enriches their lives without overshadowing other essential aspects of their growth and development.

Also in this episode:

  • Teen terms that might not mean what you think.
  • Why your teen isn’t responding to your text messages.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources.

Have a question?

If you have a question about something you heard or just want to give us some feedback, please leave us a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!

About Us

Karlie Duke

Karlie Duke

Director of Communications

Tobin Hodges

Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett

Caleb Hatchett

Podcast Host

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5 Positive Ways to Deal with Parents

5 Positive Ways to Deal with Parents

by | Jan 19, 2024 | Blog, Parenting

We see a lot of teens in Support Groups and if there’s a recurring theme, it’s that dealing with parents can be tough!

The crazy thing is the same issues that frustrate teens often frustrate adults. Life is completely different for teens than it was for adults at the same age, but there are a lot of aspects of communication that haven’t changed.

If you are a parent, it can be hard to see your teen’s side of things or how they are trying to communicate.

Parents and teachers complain most often about behavior, but a lot of times, the adults aren’t listening or allowing teens to explain.

If you are a teen here are some tips if you’re having trouble communicating with your parent(s).

Wait for the right time.

This may be difficult depending on how much your parent works or other factors. But it will come. Sometimes you can help make it the right time. Get them their favorite treat, drink, or sit and watch their favorite show with them. The effort you put in will be worth it when the result is a positive conversation.

Do things before you are asked.

This one isn’t immediately appealing because you are still doing what they want. BUT if you get annoyed because they bug you to mow the lawn or clean your room, it is worth it. If you do it before they ask, it saves you the hassle of an annoying argument or fight. You both win.

Don’t push their buttons.

Facts. If you know how to annoy the adults in your life in under five minutes, it just shows how close you are. However, it doesn’t mean you are in control. You might feel like you’re in control, but it’s guaranteed to cause you more losses than wins. Instead, take that knowledge and use it to get what you really want. Better communication.

Don’t let them push yours.

Fun fact. The adults in your life know how to push your buttons too. You get to decide if you will allow it or not. You can choose not to be annoyed- or at least not to act on it. While it’s true that adults should, well, be adults, we all know that sometimes that just doesn’t happen. But if you don’t let it stress you out, you’re guaranteed to feel better.

Think ahead.

Recognize potential hazards and plan ahead what you can say or do when they come along. Or even better, avoid them if you can. This is hard. You might need a trusted adult like a school counselor or another trusted adult to help you talk this one out.

Also note: this doesn’t not apply to situations where an adult is harming you or failing to keep you safe. If you are not safe at home, or with any adult, you need to tell someone you trust and get help. It’s not on you to avoid abuse.

You can’t keep every argument from happening and not all parents are always reasonable. But most parents want a good relationship with their kids. They want to understand and communicate better.

Maybe this will help.

 

What are other ways you can deal with parents in a positive way?

Teen Say

How can I get the adults in my life to care and not lecture?

  • Be intentional about when you talk to them- especially when you bring up tough topics. A lot of time, their emotional state or reaction isn’t about you! It’s about other things that you might not be aware of.
  • If needed, ask someone to mediate a conversation between you and the adult that you feel frustrated with.

Adults Say

How can I connect with teens and get them to open up to me?

  • Be available
  • Be yourself
  • Connect during the good times so you have that background during hard conversations. Look for ways to just have fun with no agenda!