Reporting Abuse + Opill Birth Control | Ep. 152

Reporting Abuse + Opill Birth Control | Ep. 152

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Reporting Abuse to Protect Teens in Texas

As parents and caring adults, one of our most important responsibilities is ensuring the safety and well-being of the teenagers in our lives.

Unfortunately, there are instances where teens may be subjected to various forms of abuse or neglect, which can have long-lasting and devastating effects on their physical and emotional health. It’s crucial to understand what constitutes abuse, how to recognize the signs, and what steps to take to report it.

What needs to be reported?

Abuse, in any form, is unacceptable and must be reported promptly. Whether it’s mental, emotional, physical, or sexual injury, or the failure to prevent such harm, it’s imperative to intervene. Neglect also falls under the umbrella of abuse.

Neglect or blatant disregard for the child’s welfare or failure to make a reasonable effort to prevent physical or sexual harm; includes:

  1. leaving a child in a dangerous situation
  2. failing to seek medical care for the child
  3. failure to provide necessary food, clothing or shelter

In the state of Texas, failing to report suspected abuse can lead to legal consequences, ranging from misdemeanor to felony charges.

What are the signs of abuse?

Recognizing the signs of abuse is critical for early intervention and protection of vulnerable teens. These are the most common signs to look for. It’s important to take them seriously.

  • frequent injuries
  • frequent complaints of pain without obvious injury
  • lack of reaction to pain
  • extreme fear or anxiety of going home or seeing parents
  • unreasonable clothing that might be hiding injuries
  • malnourishment
  • consistent concern for lack of personal hygiene
  • stealing or begging for food
  • child unattended for long periods of time
  • inappropriate sexual comments or behaviors
  • knowledge of sexual relations beyond what’s expected
  • severe depression, anxiety, or aggression

What does reporting look like?

Reporting abuse in Texas can be done online or by phone, with immediate action required in urgent situations. If it’s an urgent case, it’s better to call.

It’s also important to note that anonymous reporting to the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services (DFPS) is no longer permitted as of September 2023. However, you can still make anonymous reports to local and state law enforcement agencies.

When reporting, you’ll be asked for detailed information like:

  • People involved – who is being abused and who you suspect is responsible and others who can provide information

  • What happened – detailed information on concerns and reasons you are reporting

  • Safety concerns – detailed information regarding domestic violence, drug and alcohol abuse, living conditions and other safety concerns

Reporting in good faith provides legal immunity, and the identity of the reporter is kept confidential by DFPS.

Also in this episode

  • It was announced at the beginning of the month that the first over-the-counter birth control will be available soon.
  • A recent TikTok trend has teens “ranking” everything – Rank This.
  • The latest in entertainment: Avatar, Eras Tour, Dune 2, and more.
 
 
 
 

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Zyn + Tips for Low Self-Esteem | Ep. 151

Zyn + Tips for Low Self-Esteem | Ep. 151

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How can we improve teenagers’ self-esteem?

Self-esteem is the cornerstone of a teenager’s emotional well-being, shaping their confidence, decision-making abilities, and overall satisfaction in life. As caring adults, it’s crucial for us to understand the profound impact our words and actions can have on a teenager’s self-esteem.

Do you remember something said during your middle or high school years that significantly influenced your self-esteem, either positively or negatively? These moments can linger in our memories, shaping our perceptions of ourselves for years to come.

Low self-esteem has long-lasting effects

Low self-esteem can manifest in various ways in teenagers, including diminished confidence, avoidance of risks, withdrawal or isolation, struggles with decision-making, difficulty asserting boundaries, and negative self-talk. Moreover, it can predispose them to anxiety, depression, loneliness, and even addiction later in life.

At Teen Life we believe:

Teenagers Deserve Connection

Every teenager deserves meaningful connections that validate their experiences and emotions.

Teenagers Have Strengths and Gifts

Instead of viewing teenagers as problems to be solved, we recognize their unique strengths and potential.

Teenagers Are Not Problems to Be Solved

We aim to support teenagers in building positive connections and cultivating their inner strength and confidence, enabling them to learn from failures and grow into resilient individuals.

How can adults improve a teenager’s low self-esteem?

As adults, we play a pivotal role in nurturing teenagers’ self-esteem. Here are some practical strategies to support them:

 

  1. Believe in Their Potential
    Treat teenagers as capable and worthy of love, instilling confidence in their abilities.

  2. Offer Unconditional Love and Encouragement
    Provide consistent support and encouragement, regardless of their successes or failures.
  3. Engage in Non-Judgmental Conversations
    Encourage open dialogue about actions and thoughts, viewing failures as opportunities for growth rather than shortcomings.
  4. Model Positive Self-Talk
    Demonstrate healthy self-talk and challenge negative thought patterns when they arise.
  5. Be Available and Ask Good Questions
    Make yourself available for conversations and ask thoughtful questions to understand their perspectives and concerns.

Tips for Teens

For teenagers seeking to enhance their self-esteem, consider the following tips:

Help Others: Engage in acts of kindness, such as volunteering or mentoring, to experience the gratification of making a positive impact.

Focus on Improvement: Rather than aiming for perfection, focus on improving one skill or aspect of yourself at a time.

Challenge Negative Thought Patterns: Practice recognizing and challenging negative thoughts, replacing them with positive affirmations.

Surround Yourself with Supportive Influences: Seek out supportive relationships and activities that uplift and encourage you to thrive.

Nurturing self-esteem in teenagers requires a collaborative effort between caring adults and adolescents themselves. By fostering positive connections, celebrating strengths, and embracing growth opportunities, we can empower teenagers to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and resilience. Together, we can build a community where every teenager feels valued, capable, and worthy of love.

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  • Zyn nicotine pouches are increasingly popular among middle school and high school students.
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15 Reasons to Love Teens | Ep. 150

15 Reasons to Love Teens | Ep. 150

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Here’s our list of reasons to love teenagers.

What would you add?

We believe that teens are amazing for who they are becoming, but also for who they are right now!

To celebrate our 150th episode, we wanted to take a minute to remember some of the top reasons we love being around teenagers.

Give us your additions in the comments!

  1. They are hilarious
  2. They view the world through a different lens
  3. They’re never boring
  4. They realize their voice matters
  5. Every emotion they have is intense and strong
  6. They can dress themselves
  7. They care deeply
  8. They are thriving in a really complicated phase of life
  9. They stand up for what’s right
  10. They teach us so many things
  11. They are leaders, especially for kids younger than them
  12. They can be brutally honest
  13. They can pick up new skills easily
  14. How quickly they can connect to others (did we just become best friends?)
  15. Their excitement and passion for the things they care about

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Spring Break Ideas + Teen Addictions | Ep. 149

Spring Break Ideas + Teen Addictions | Ep. 149

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What do you do when your teen is addicted to something people praise?

Addiction can be a slippery slope, especially in today’s world where we’re bombarded with stimuli triggering the release of dopamine—the pleasure neurotransmitter—in our brains.

Whether it’s social media, video games, or substances, the struggle is real. But so is the hope for recovery and resilience.

Understanding Addiction

Firstly, let’s define addiction. It’s not just about drugs or alcohol; it’s a strong inclination to repeatedly engage in certain behaviors or consume substances. NPR published an article shedding light on how dopamine, our brain’s reward system, plays a significant role in addiction. Dopamine brings pleasure but is quickly followed by a come-down, compelling us to seek more stimuli to maintain that high. Our brains weren’t designed for this constant flood of dopamine from various sources like sugar, social media, or even intense workouts.

What are teens addicted to?

You might be surprised to learn what teens can be addicted to. While some are obvious like alcohol or drugs, others are socially acceptable in our culture. From social media and video games to caffeine and even books, addiction can manifest in various forms.

Here are some examples of common addictions.
  • Social Media
  • Working Out
  • Sports
  • Music
  • Art
  • Alcohol
  • Food
  • Sugar
  • Caffeine
  • Weed
  • Vaping
  • Video Games
  • TV
  • Porn
  • Sex
  • Parasocial relationships
  • Books
  • Adventure/Travel

How can we help teens overcome addiction?

Practical steps for overcoming addiction:

Self-Reflection

Encourage teens to reflect on their addictive behaviors and what triggers them. Understanding the root cause is crucial.

Take a Break

Suggest a 30-day break from the addictive behavior or substance. This detox period allows the brain to reset.

Open Communication

Be honest and create a safe space for teens to talk about their struggles. Sometimes, all they need is someone to listen and ask the right questions.

Find Alternatives

Help teens find positive ways to fill their time and replace addictive behaviors with healthier activities like sports, art, or volunteering.

How parents can help:

  • Observe Behavior: Pay attention to changes in your teen’s behavior. Ask questions and express concern if you notice anything alarming.

  • Seek Help: If needed, don’t hesitate to seek professional help for your teen. Therapists and counselors can provide invaluable support and guidance.

  • Lead by Example: Model healthy behaviors yourself. If you notice your addictive tendencies, be transparent about your journey to overcome them.

  • Supportive Environment: Create a supportive environment at home where open discussions about addiction are encouraged, free from judgment or shame. Give something up together.

Overcoming addiction is a journey that requires patience, understanding, and support. By addressing addictive behaviors early on and providing the necessary tools and resources, we can empower our teens to lead fulfilling lives free from the grips of addiction.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Together, we can help teens navigate the challenges of addiction and emerge stronger and more resilient.

Also in this episode:

  • Spring break tips, tricks, and ideas for making the most of the week.
  • Teen terms and trends to know: Gyat, Skibidi toilet
  • The Stanley cup strikes again. Girls are getting bullied for not having them, leading to school bans.

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00:28 Spring Break Memories
02:24 Spring Break Tips
03:25 Spring Break Ideas
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11:31 Stanley Cups
13:53 GYAT
16:07 Skibidi Toilet
18:34 Addiction + Dopamine
25:56 Addiction Examples
27:02 Tips for Overcoming Addiction

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Friendship Anxiety + Teen Movies | Ep. 148

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Friendship Anxiety: A Guide for Teens and Parents

If you are experiencing friendship anxiety, you are not alone!

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the pressure to fit in and maintain a wide circle of friends. And let’s be honest, social media instills us all with FOMO. After all, it seems like everyone is having a great time. And if you’re not there, do you even have friends at all?

The more connected we are, the more we can feel disconnected and anxious about whether or not we are living up to expectations.

Fortunately, there are strategies to cope with friendship anxiety and cultivate healthy relationships.

Understanding Friendship Anxiety

Friendship anxiety can manifest in various ways, whether it’s stress about finding friends, feeling left out in social situations, or dealing with the dynamics of existing friendships. Interestingly, studies have shown that humans have a natural limit to our social networks. This is often referred to as “Dunbar’s number.” According to Dunbar’s number, we can maintain stable relationships with around 150 individuals. However, in today’s digital age, teens are exposed to far more connections, especially through social media platforms like Instagram and Snapchat.

For teens who are already prone to people-pleasing or have developmental sensitivities, the pressure to navigate social interactions can be particularly intense. The constant need to monitor where their friends are, how they’re perceived online, and the fear of missing out can make friendship anxiety even worse.

Advice for Teens with Friendship Anxiety

Put Yourself Out There

Engage in activities or join clubs where you can meet like-minded peers.

Finding opportunities to connect with others who share similar interests is a fantastic way to break the ice and make new friends. Whether you’re passionate about sports, arts, or academics, there’s likely a club or group where you can meet people who share your enthusiasm. Joining a sports team not only provides a platform for physical activity but also allows you to connect with teammates. Similarly, participating in hobby groups or extracurricular activities allows you to bond with others over shared interests. It might sound scary, but even something as simple as striking up conversations with classmates during lunch breaks or study sessions can lead to lasting friendships. By putting yourself in social situations that match your interests, you increase the likelihood of finding friends who appreciate your unique qualities.

Practice Social Scripts

If initiating conversations feels daunting…

Socializing can be intimidating, especially if you’re unsure of what to say or how to start a conversation. Practicing social scripts can be incredibly beneficial. Take the time to think about common conversation starters or topics of interest, and rehearse them either alone or with a trusted adult. By familiarizing yourself with potential dialogue scenarios, you can alleviate some of the anxiety associated with initiating conversations. Remember, it’s okay to start with simple greetings or compliments, and gradually build rapport from there. Having a script as a guide can boost your confidence and make social interactions feel more natural and effortless.

Create Healthy Boundaries

If a particular friendship is causing significant anxiety or distress…

Not all friendships are meant to last, and that’s okay!

If you find yourself feeling consistently anxious or drained by a particular relationship, it may be time to reevaluate its dynamics. Creating healthy boundaries involves recognizing your own needs and prioritizing your well-being. This could mean taking a step back from a friendship that no longer serves you or setting clear expectations for how you want to be treated. Remember, quality trumps quantity when it comes to friendships, so focus on building relationships that make you feel good about yourself and support you. Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.

(Listen to episode 17 on BFFs.)

Embrace Alone Time

Recognize the importance of taking breaks and recharging your social batteries.

In a world that glorifies constant connection, it’s easy to overlook the value of time alone. However, spending time alone can be refreshing and essential for maintaining overall well-being. Embrace moments of solitude as opportunities to reflect, recharge, and indulge in activities that bring you joy. Whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, or simply enjoying your own company, prioritize self-care and make time for activities that nourish your soul.

Remember, alone time isn’t a sign of isolation; it’s a valuable opportunity to reconnect with yourself and cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness.

Learn to Say No

You don’t have to attend every social event or be friends with everyone.

It’s natural to want to please others and avoid disappointing them, but it’s essential to recognize your limits and prioritize your well-being. Learning to say no, whether it’s declining an invitation or setting boundaries with friends, is a crucial skill that fosters self-respect and autonomy. You are not obligated to attend every social event or be friends with everyone you encounter. It’s okay to decline invitations or politely decline requests that don’t align with your interests or values. Asserting boundaries usually makes you look cool, because everyone longs for that kind of self-respect. It also helps cultivate healthy, fulfilling relationships based on mutual understanding and respect.

When you respect yourself, others usually follow suit.

(Read about teaching teens the power of no.)

Offer Support

If a friend is going through a tough time…

True friendship goes beyond the good times; it’s about being there for each other in good times and bad. If a friend is facing challenges or going through a difficult period, don’t hesitate to reach out and offer your support. You don’t have to have all the answers or solve their problems, but lending a listening ear and showing empathy can make a world of difference. It’s enough to let them know that they’re not alone. Sometimes, all it takes is knowing that someone cares to you feel better when times are hard. Your support can make a profound impact and strengthen the bonds of friendship.

Advice for Parents
  1. Stay Curious
    Check in on your teen’s friendships regularly and ask open-ended questions about their social experiences. Show genuine interest and offer support without judgment.

  2. Provide a Safety Net
    Be the “fall guy” if your teen needs an excuse to opt out of social situations that trigger anxiety. Establish code words or phrases that signal when they need a graceful exit.
  3. Model Healthy Boundaries
    Teach your teen the importance of setting boundaries in friendships and lead by example. Encourage open communication and validate their feelings when they express discomfort in certain relationships.
  4. Avoid Comparison
    Refrain from comparing your teen’s friendships to your own or those of others. Each person’s social journey is unique, and it’s essential to respect their individual experiences.
  5. Offer Empathy
    Be there for your teen when they’re struggling with friendship anxiety. Listen attentively, offer reassurance, and provide a supportive presence whenever they need to talk.

Also in this episode:

  • The history and fun facts of Leap Year.
  • Teen movies might not all be accurate, but some can offer insight into teen culture.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources about friendship anxiety.

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